"Stop-it...Dam-it": Phrases that Stop Your Growth
We have all heard it a million times... "Sticks and stones will break my bones but words can never hurt me"? I couldn't disagree more!! As a Christian pastor I have the opportunity to do 10+ hours a week of marriage counseling. Many sessions are working through forgiveness and healing for words used yesterday (and sometimes even words used 20 years ago that had a negative impact yet was never addressed). So often in mentoring I hear people utter phrases that on the surface seem harmless but, in reality are devastating. There is no voice more powerful than your own.
In fact, a study found that it took seven positive comments from others to negate ONE negative thing we told ourselves.
I CAN'T
Many years ago I learned that CAN'T was an acronym. It means-Certainly Am Not Trying. "I Can't" feeds the fear. It gives into the fear. It let's fear triumph without even trying. We can do anything we put our mind's to. You could run a marathon, you could climb a mountain, you can loose weight and you CAN build a business. The tougher the tasks the longer it takes. CAN'T is your fear talking. Tell it to sit down and shut up. Replace it with: I WILL!
I HAVE TO
No you don't. You CHOOSE to. Perhaps you "choose" to based on what other people will think, say or do.. but you choose to. So if that is the case, own the choice. If you don't like the choice, change the choice. Let others think, do or say what they will. Replace with: I choose to do this because.
I SHOULD
Quit “shoulding” all over yourself! "Should" is self-castigating. "Should" implies that you fell short or were wrong in some way. "Should" is filled with regret.
Replace this with: Next time I will... or maybe just let yourself do what you want. Cut yourself some slack.
I'LL TRY
This is one of the most damaging phrases in the English language. To quote Yoda, “Do or Do Not... there is no try”. "Try" opens the door for failure.
Replace this with: “No matter what”. No matter what says "I know I can and I will keep at it until I get there".
I AM SO STUPID
I hear this so often and it makes me gasp for air. Would you ever let someone talk to you that way? Absolutely not! You are not stupid! You are learning, evolving and growing.
"Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid" Albert Einstein
These phrases rob us of our power and make us helpless victims. Take your power back. Choose your words carefully as they build who you are. Own your words, deeds and actions… for they are yours alone.
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